Corrine Barraclough wrote the article after talking to Julie Cook, national director of Abortion Grief Australia (AGA), and concluded that what she learned about the effect abortion has on men “is a heartbreaking ocean of pain I had no idea existed”.
Overcome With Grief
For some men, the grief of losing their unborn son or daughter to abortion is so extreme that they end up committing suicide. This is one story Julie Cook told:
“A woman called recently crying hysterically. It would have been her wedding day, she was inconsolable,” says Cook. “Her fiance had taken his life a few weeks before. She had been pregnant and thought it was too soon to add a baby to their relationship, so went for an abortion and didn’t say a word. When he found out he was overcome with grief and took his life. It’s not uncommon. This is something we must recognize and discuss more openly as a society.”
Another story involved a 16 year old boy, who was saved from suicide “by two seconds”. “He had been doing well at school but following his girlfriend’s abortion and their subsequent breakup, his grades fell. He dropped out of school and became homeless. Sadly, he also told the counsellor of a friend’s suicide because of abortion too,” Cook said.Abortion Doesn’t Just Hurt Women
Part of the problem is that there is very little recognition of a link between abortion and male depression and suicide.
“Most suicide counsellors aren’t trained to identify abortion trauma,” Ms Cook told the paper. “In fact, the vast majority aren’t even aware that it can be an issue for men. Most women have no concept that abortion can hurt men.”
“Male suicides can be both directly and indirectly related to abortion,” she went on. “One of the biggest predictors of male suicide is relationship breakdown. Unless work is done towards resolution, abortion trauma often destroys relationships.
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